When to tell?
Whenever you make a new friend or find a new path or accomplish some life goal you feel really good about yourself. There is an overpowering and overwhelming sensation inside. And you know the reason sometimes. At other times that reason is not so forthcoming. And you need to know the reason to replicate this feeling. So you try sharing this feeling with someone to understand it. Many a times, along the way the timeline gets distorted and the someone becomes the reason you for that feeling. Voila! You are in love. Or atleast you think you are.
Once you feel you are in love, you find signs in things that were commonplace earlier forgetting that the person likes to give special attention to his/her friends or, if that person has a heart of gold, even to strangers. My friend, this is you being blind sighted. You keep piling on your emotions based on non-existing hints and start taking out loans to build your very own fantasy world. You know your special someone might be in love with this real world. But then who cares? Or on the other hand, you do not give yourself enough time and decide to act on your fleeting feeling. The other person accepts and it is magic for some time. But soon that feeling decides to excuse itself from your relationship and you realize you were never ready. This breaks a heart and probably a friendship if on of you two are not strong enough to stay friends after all this.
My point is before you decide to dive into love - heart, body and soul - try to listen to your intuition. Understand your emotions. Check if you are ready. Put on your thinking cap. But do not overthink so much that you have built a pool on the roof of for your fantasy palace only to have it come crashing down and burying you under it upon rejection.
So how do you know when is the right time? When is it that you have thought about it long enough to express your love? That my friend is something I could never figure out. So I decided to dust off the palace debris, suture up my wounds and start feeling good without needing to project my feelings onto someone else.
Once you feel you are in love, you find signs in things that were commonplace earlier forgetting that the person likes to give special attention to his/her friends or, if that person has a heart of gold, even to strangers. My friend, this is you being blind sighted. You keep piling on your emotions based on non-existing hints and start taking out loans to build your very own fantasy world. You know your special someone might be in love with this real world. But then who cares? Or on the other hand, you do not give yourself enough time and decide to act on your fleeting feeling. The other person accepts and it is magic for some time. But soon that feeling decides to excuse itself from your relationship and you realize you were never ready. This breaks a heart and probably a friendship if on of you two are not strong enough to stay friends after all this.
My point is before you decide to dive into love - heart, body and soul - try to listen to your intuition. Understand your emotions. Check if you are ready. Put on your thinking cap. But do not overthink so much that you have built a pool on the roof of for your fantasy palace only to have it come crashing down and burying you under it upon rejection.
So how do you know when is the right time? When is it that you have thought about it long enough to express your love? That my friend is something I could never figure out. So I decided to dust off the palace debris, suture up my wounds and start feeling good without needing to project my feelings onto someone else.
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