WHY do you need THE ONE?
After the previous blog, I had a discussion with another of my friends and his question was Why do you need THE ONE? Are you getting desperate? My reply was that it was only an answer to the question formed by the environment around me. But then there's no incident that happen by itself. There's always a thinking behind it. Maybe, just maybe, the society reiterating its point again and again of necessity of marriage made a small puncture through my defenses. And thanks to my friend, am back to square one.
Why do we need THE ONE? If you can be in love with yourself whole your life, if you can be independent enough to do whatever you like to, why is there a need for any other person. This need arises when you start feeling alone with yourself. You stop feeling good about yourself and need an external source to reaffirm your belief that you are a good person and are enjoying your life.
Now that thought is laughable. How does one lose his self belief to such an extent that he requires an external approval? The society for some reason relishes feeding on it. They find an extravaganza to feast on. A topic to discuss. An experiment to conduct. And if someone is not willing to volunteer as a lab rat, they try to reach him through so many avenues to just shake his belief. Logic is what we need to debate on. Take logic out of a conversation and the majority's point is the clear winner, it doesnt matter how that majority opinion got formed and how stable is the individual's, comprising that society, belief in it.
Now before anyone jumps to the conclusion that I am against the institution of marriage, I would like to clarify that I am a firm believer of love. Any willing union of two people based upon their own stable, independent and mature choices without any external influence is what I call love and marriage is their declaration to the world. But is it stable if the individuals dont understand each other? Is it independent if the society forcefully keeps impressing the fact that one has to marry to enjoy life to the fullest? Is it mature if the involved persons dont love themselves enough to not fear the thought of living alone?
Why do we need THE ONE? If you can be in love with yourself whole your life, if you can be independent enough to do whatever you like to, why is there a need for any other person. This need arises when you start feeling alone with yourself. You stop feeling good about yourself and need an external source to reaffirm your belief that you are a good person and are enjoying your life.
Now that thought is laughable. How does one lose his self belief to such an extent that he requires an external approval? The society for some reason relishes feeding on it. They find an extravaganza to feast on. A topic to discuss. An experiment to conduct. And if someone is not willing to volunteer as a lab rat, they try to reach him through so many avenues to just shake his belief. Logic is what we need to debate on. Take logic out of a conversation and the majority's point is the clear winner, it doesnt matter how that majority opinion got formed and how stable is the individual's, comprising that society, belief in it.
Now before anyone jumps to the conclusion that I am against the institution of marriage, I would like to clarify that I am a firm believer of love. Any willing union of two people based upon their own stable, independent and mature choices without any external influence is what I call love and marriage is their declaration to the world. But is it stable if the individuals dont understand each other? Is it independent if the society forcefully keeps impressing the fact that one has to marry to enjoy life to the fullest? Is it mature if the involved persons dont love themselves enough to not fear the thought of living alone?
The last paragraph answers the question to the ones in the second.
ReplyDeleteWhen we say, 'I need THE one to get married!' we are blatantly seeking for someone who is 'socially' upright. But when it comes to being in love, it's not the desire to have an external source to reaffirm your faith, but a bond you just can't ignore.
I'm really bad at such love stuff, but thought I'd share my opinion this once. :)
Exactly! You gave the summary of my post :) Thanks for sharing your opinion. How can someone be bad at stuff which is part of their own philosophy abt life :P But for other stuffs u think u r bad at, do always share ur opinion. Practice make a man.. oops i mean even woman.. perfect :)
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